What Matters?

Yesterday we buried my brother. He outlived any reasonable life expectancy given that he had a liver transplant over 18 years ago. Mark Anthony from Shakespeare’s Julius Ceasar famously said, “I come to bury Ceasar not to praise him.” It is true that I don’t come to praise my brother Gordon — and there was much to give praise about — but

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Stats or Anecdotes

Those who know me think I care about statistics. Well, sort of. I care about the realities behind the stats as part of the information that helps me run the race with more of an edge. Here are some things I have read that allege to be based on research. I really don’t know how reliable the research is. But

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The Bag of Bones

Yesterday Wendy and I went to visit a pastor friend/couple of long-standing we haven’t seen for a decade. We just picked up where we left off. It was about as rich a visit as four people could ever have. This morning I still feel the glow. We visited the church where my friend is Interim Pastor and heard his very thoughtful

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Fear and Me

I had a friend and mentor say to me many years ago, “The hardest door to get through is my own.” That surprised me because he seemed to have more readiness to engage strangers than I ever imagined I could have. Now I am him. Others think I find it easy to talk to new people. For me, it is

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Knowing What to Say

Here is how I try to coach people. I got this from Paul in I Thessalonians 5:14. The following three categories could represent the approach a person needs in a season of life or might even be a settled personality with long standing evidence. Most people you meet need one of these three approaches. Most of us are better at one

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