We are all by nature “No” people. And that is understandable.
USA Today, 2006: “The average 1970s city dweller was exposed to 500 to 2,000 ad messages a day. Now, it’s 3,000 to 5,000.” (J.Walker Smith) And that was before Facebook ads! Imagine how many ads we see today. Now imagine if we said “YES” to them all.
We have to say “No” much more often than we say “Yes.”
Add to that the fact that much of that advertising appeals to our lower nature — greed, lust etc. We had better learn to say, “No.”
That is not my point. The answer is “Yes” when someone comes up with an idea they think is good unless there is a good reason to reject the idea.
More church people are shut out when you say, “No” because “No” is a demotivator.
If you need to say “No” to an idea you had better have a good set of reasons. If you feel like saying “No” learn to say, “Now there is an idea we need to think about. Would it be OK if I get back to you tomorrow after checking around with some people to make sure we don’t miss something?”
An idea isn’t bad just because you didn’t think of it first. So before you say “No” make it your purpose to find three good reasons to back up that resistant predisposition. Be honest with yourself about your own desire to get your own way and give honour to the other person.
Let’s come back to that subject on another day and see what else we can add to the discussion.